Limitless!

No...i'm not gonna talk about the movie.....I am going to talk about my son and his future...........

"Don't worry, art and music talent never runs in the family!" that's what my parent and other family members said to me when I came home showing my report card that I only got C minus for singing class and art & craft class in elementary school. And that's not the first time nor the last time i've heard those words spoken to me. So for many many years, I believe that. I believed that when I was kicked out from the school choir line for being to slow to learn the notations, and I used those words again to justified cheating on the high school drawing final test by submitting my friend's work.

And I definitely heard those words again when my uncle's wife, a piano teacher, told me that I need to loosen up my fingers so that I can play the piano better. So instead of learning to loosen up I gave up, because "art and music talent never runs in the family!"

But later in China, I learned that despite the no talent for art and music, I can do a decent job on my chinese calligraphy (I will never gave up my day job to become a calligrapher though! :D) and my biggest discovery.....when my Yang Qin (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yangqin)teacher told me that I did a great job and my hand bounce so naturally on the strings............my o my.......That encouragement words fired me to practice almost everyday, whenever i had the time or then school opened the practice room. Unfortunately, to practice was cut short because the room was renovated and i never really found out what happened to the yang qin. But I was so in love with the instrument I decided that when I have the money and place, I will buy one and practice again.

By now you probably asking what's all of that got to do with my son future..............I don't want my son to grow like me. I want him to explore all the possibilities that life is giving him. I will encourage, support and when needed push him when he wants to try a new activity. I believe that everybody is born not knowing what we can or can not do in life. How many times in we heard this: "our family don't do well in sport"; "our people are not a traveler kind"; etc............just because some one in our family can't play sport very good it doesn't mean that the other can't either, maybe they are not going to as famous or as good Beckham but why not try first. Just because a lot of people in the neighborhood don't like being to far from home, it doesn't mean that other people can't explore the wide beautiful world.

Those words, are what I called negative subconscious programming (NSP). NSP can be deadly crippling, yes, I said deadly, because NSP has many people died without knowing what he or she can really do in life. And for vowed that as long as I can I will not give NSP to my baby or anybody around me.

I will give him my cheers and claps, whether he  is a ballet dancer or an engineer.

I will give him my hugs and encouragements, whether he's a painter or an accountant.

I will give him my love and supports, whether he's a writer or a pilot.

He can be whatever he decided to be, as long he will try the best that he can, be happy in what he decided to do and make a decent living on it. For him, the sky is not the limit.............